Abandonment, Anger & Attachment Theory – Alina Badescu

This essential conversation offers invaluable insights for anyone struggling with abandonment fears, anger management, relationship difficulties, or seeking to understand how early experiences shape our adult lives.

Join us for an inspiring and deeply personal conversation with psychosexual therapist and author Silva Neves as he shares his extraordinary journey from feeling like an outsider in a tiny rural French Alpine community to building a thriving practice in London challenging conventional approaches to sex and relationship therapy.

This engaging discussion explores how feeling different can become your greatest strength, and why seeking out environments where you truly belong is essential for personal and professional fulfilment.

This honest discussion explores how early childhood experiences shape our relationships, and why discovering Attachment Theory became the catalyst for profound personal and professional transformation.

In this compelling episode, Alina openly shares:

• Growing up in Romania in the countryside with her grandmother and aunt
• The shock of being reclaimed by her mother and moving to town
• Struggling to adjust to living with parents she barely knew
• Developing abandonment and anger issues in childhood
• How these unresolved issues impacted her romantic relationships
• The strain on her bond with her own children
• Facing workplace challenges stemming from unhealed trauma
• Coming to England in 2013 and working a succession of dead-end jobs
• Hitting crisis point during the Covid pandemic
• Discovering a Facebook video about Attachment Theory that changed everything
• The pivotal decision to train as a counsellor
• How therapy transformed both her personal and professional life • Using her lived experience to support clients with similar struggles
• Finding compassion for herself and others through healing work

Key Topics Discussed:

• Early childhood separation and its lasting impact
• Abandonment trauma and attachment patterns
• How unresolved childhood issues affect romantic relationships
• The impact of parental trauma on parenting your own children
• Anger as a response to unmet emotional needs
• Career and workplace challenges rooted in trauma
• Life transitions and crisis as catalysts for change
• The transformative power of understanding Attachment Theory
• Training as a therapist following personal healing
• Using lived experience to support clients authentically
• Breaking cycles of trauma through therapeutic work
• Finding hope and healing after crisis

Chapters:

00:00 Alina’s Journey: Unhappiness, Numbing and the Search for Self
05:56 Early Trauma: From Romanian Childhood to UK Survival Mode
13:16 Unpacking Abandonment: How Attachment Theory Explained Her Anger
19:56 The Healing Path: From Survival Mode to Becoming a Therapist
30:20 Alina’s Wisdom: The Courage to Ask for Help and Embrace Self-Love

Learn more about Alina Badescu.